Some Advice to Myself & Others

Identity is essentially the distinguishing character or personality of an individual. We establish identity by the components we characterize ourselves by such as our social environment and blood relations. Through identity, people form a deep rooted sense of uniqueness and define themselves through self-reflection. 

Personally, I have always felt that people who associate tremendously with Western culture have a great sense of entitlement. Seeing themselves as a single person, they therefore foster to a mindset in which they see their issues as singular and only carried by him/herself. I have no intent or aim to undermine anyone's experience. If one sees him/herself as an individual entity, as opposed to to a fraction of society, wouldn't that person be more likely to act in his/her self-interests because s/he is unable to look through a broader lens (when it comes to life issues)?

How one presents him/herself in society determines that person's social status. Insecurity shows through appearance; take a look at body language or fashion. Being human, I am destined to be judgmental. I will look down on that person, as will everyone else, simply because that person has no confidence in him/herself. Embracing your flaws and being comfortable with WHO and WHAT you are will ensure greater happiness. Regardless of one's experiences, as they are not the same for all, they all have potential to be more enjoyable depending on state of mind.

In life, one will always be at an advantage, while the other is at a disadvantage. Multiple things in life will come and beat us down. Try to overcome them. Mistreated? Physical confrontation? Fight back. Rebel. Do not allow anyone or yourself to question your worth. Need extra support? Ask for help. Refusal to accept your circumstances and carve a path FORWARD results in failure to yourself. Surrendering ultimately makes you weak. The greatest method of combating people that aim to invalidate your existence is by being alive. Think life is hard? Live a little.

External influences do play a fundamental role in shaping one's mental strength, but they are not absolute. EVERYONE is capable of becoming emotionally strong. Moreover, enduring these issues act as preparation for the adult world. Change is still possible and shortcomings could be transformed into pillars of strength. Mistreatment will come in all directions in a variety of shapes and forms. It is argued that people are cemented to the roles of the strong and the weak, and that is partly true, mainly because there are people who fail (or feel no need) to develop a proper defense mechanism for stressful situations. Having no way of handling it, it undoubtedly kills them. Use them as an example. Do not follow in their footsteps.

I recognize that there are circumstance in which suicide is seen as acceptable, even necessary, but in the end, death is death. You are merely a corpse 6 feet beneath the ground. What have you proven? Death truly is a tragedy, but it serves as a reminder that we are only a guest on this planet. Make use of your life while you can. When someone passes away, it is a loss for the human race–potential ideas, possible human connections... However, there are thousands and thousands of people in existence right now. Give life a chance to become pleasurable. Do not submit to death and allow your death to just become a number.

All in all, I cannot say that I fully sympathize with people who resort to such drastic means. In life, some people truly do undergo a sense of disconnect both catastrophic and intense that they are unable to fully experience joy and love. Regardless, to give up on life is a heavy cost and it deprives an individual of various opportunities for happiness. The only one to blame for your death would be yourself and you are no martyr. Do not nurture to negative thoughts and emotions; ignore parasitic bullshit. Love yourself and remember you are worth it.