Sex & Virginity

In today's society, the term virgin has become a label synonymous with being undesirable, prudish, or abnormally conservative. While that may be the case, there is also social stigma to having sexual experience. Being a non-virgin either equates to social status or promiscuity. It sometimes bears no such consequence. In my opinion, this can be summed up in one's viewpoint of sex, whether or not it is seen as an entirely separate matter from love and affection. For others, it is the mere result of carnal desire. In essence, sexual intercourse is a physical action, but it can have MORE meaning when involving an emotional connection.

For me, I could ever be sexually involved with another individual who I did not love. Moreover, I do not want that person to be a transient figure in my life and, simply fade away in importance and remain as a memory. To commit and deeply invest in another individual–that will undoubtedly take a heavy toll on me. Intimacy, closeness with another person, and the strength of love are all things that I treasure. I have never dated someone without thinking that person was perfect for me and that the relationship would last.

With sex, there are many responsibilities as well as consequences. I am a virgin myself partially due to my unwillingness to deal with the possible negative aftershock of sex. Sex can be seen as the aftermath of lack of control or a release to primal instinct/hormones. However, I see it as a question of whether or not s/he had exposure to a sexual education. I do not believe in shunning. It is not the perfect vaccine for people who exist in a culture where they are left complete vulnerable to peer pressure and the adverse effects of a pack mentality, nor does it does not ensure that the person will take preparatory measures for sex. With no sexual education, an individual stays ignorant and nothing will dissuade him/her from sex. Plus, those that are younger tend to have a mentality in which it is "cool" to take actions normally considered negative in society. A condemning response carries the assumption that the individual is not intelligent enough to make his/her own decisions and it must be chosen for him/her. To be frank, sexual intercourse is truly a decision entirely up to that individual and, no outside source should define and/or decide that for him/her.

Overall, sex is a sensitive subject and regardless of your interpretation of sex, it should involve consenting, responsible, and informed adults with access to contraceptives.